Sometimes I get in a snit when I hear people saying “wow he/she is really lucky…all I get is bad luck, waa, waa, waaaaaa” Well just cry me a river why don’t ya? In my opinion luck has nothing to do with it. I prefer to think of it as serendipity – the ability to be in the right place at the right time, in the right frame of mind.
I get rather offended when someone is bemoaning their lot in life and telling me how lucky I am. I beg your pardon. I didn’t just “get lucky” and stumble into my life. I earned it! My life is a result of the choices I make on a daily basis. I got a job at 16 and kept it and all succeeding jobs by showing up and doing an honest day’s work for the next 40 years. I put in the effort, I did the time, I worked hard to provide for myself and my children and did not become a burden on society. I tried to be a forthright person, a good wife, a good friend, a loving daughter and sought to constantly improve myself. I got out there, took risks, and reached for that brass ring, and after enough tries I got it. I didn’t give up after the first failure.
I’m a reasonably attractive, intelligent, honest woman. As a result I had a lot of options ever the years when it comes to choosing a mate. I made huge mistakes and paid the price for it many times over. I’ve chosen poorly with mean violent men, lazy men, dishonest men, drunkards, and all around dumb asses in every sense of the word. I finally came to my senses in this department and chose an honest, good hearted man, with a profound sense of personal integrity. I reap the rewards of this choice everyday when I look at darling husband and know that he loves, cherishes and respects me.
There is a movie called “Liar, Liar” starring Jim Carrey. He is a criminal defense attorney and a consummate liar. As a result his young son wishes, when he blows out his birthday candles, that his dad would not be able to tell a lie for one whole day.
That’s a little difficult to do when you are trying to defend criminals. One scene that really cracks me up is when his secretary tells him that one of his clients is line one. He’s done something illegal again and needs advice from his attorney. Jim, unable to tell a lie, snatches up the phone and yells, “Stop breaking the law, Asshole!!!” and then slams down the phone. Now that is good advice. Every time I see that I almost roll in the floor laughing. For a lot of people it really is just that simple. Duh, don’t break the law. Duh, don’t do wrong things. Duh, don’t steal from others, Duh, don’t run around shooting and killing people, Duh, don’t use and sell illegal drugs, Duh, don’t run around acting ike a complete slut puppy, etc.
There is a quote that I love and I don’t know who said it but here it is; “There is a reason that God gave us the Ten Commandments, not the ten suggestions.” No good ever comes from breaking any of these commandments. Of course the big 10 is a Christian way of putting it, but just about every religion has some version of this theory. Even atheists refer to things like Karma, and “what does around comes around.”